Category: Supporting Survivors

Supporting the Supporters

May is Mental Health Month, which has been observed since 1949. Mental Health Month helps to raise awareness about the importance of mental health and to stop the negative stigma that is often associated with it. Our mental health is so important because it affects every aspect of our lives, including how we think, act, and feel. In honor of Mental Health Month, we interviewed REACH’s…

Tips for Supporting Survivors During the Holidays

The holidays can be a very difficult time of year for many, including survivors of domestic violence.  For many survivors, the holidays may be a time when they are forced to make the difficult decision to miss time with loved ones, as family gatherings may mean coming face-to-face with their abuser. While we are always here to listen and offer support, we know that many survivors…

Believing Survivors: Letting go of Blame

“You shouldn’t have been wearing high heels!” – Mother to daughter who was assaulted on her way home from work “Truthfully, I was a very sexual girl. I really don’t think he was at fault because I was just so promiscuous, he couldn’t help it.” – Adult survivor, describing sexual abuse she experienced as a five-year-old child “I’m so sorry you had to come out in…

How to Support a Loved One who is Experiencing Abuse (and why this can be so hard)

Throughout my career, including just yesterday, I have received calls from friends and family who are concerned that someone they love is experiencing abuse. These calls often start with the sentence, “I’m looking for some advice…” and I can hear in their voices how deeply worried they are, and how much they hope that I can provide an answer for them.  As I do with each of these calls,…

How We Listen Matters

On my way in to work this morning, a song by Justin Timberlake came on the radio. I’d heard it before, but being stuck in traffic allowed me to pay more attention to the lyrics, and one line in the chorus really stood out to me: “Sometimes the greatest way to say something, is to say nothing at all.” That lyric stayed with me, as I later supported someone who…

Accountability

Not long ago, I had the pleasure of training a group of collegiate male athletes. Their team, along with other athletic teams at their university, were participating in a day focused on addressing and preventing gender-based violence. As soon as we began our workshop together, it was evident that this was a group of young men who were highly motivated, not only to learn about these…

What Laura Is Thinking…

There is so much happening in the world today and following the verdict in the Bill Cosby trial, I was struggling with what to say in this time and space – something different and compelling. Then I opened an email from Debra Robbin, the Executive Director at our state coalition, Jane Doe Inc. Supporting and believing survivors is essential, and we must continue to invest in…

Recognizing ALL Survivor Voices During Sexual Assault Awareness Month

April marks Sexual Assault Awareness Month.  This year, it feels especially relevant given the national dialogue that our society is engaging in surrounding the #MeToo movement.  April is always a meaningful time for me, as it marks what I think of as my entry into this work.  Prior to college, I really had never thought about domestic or sexual violence, until a friend invited me to attend…

5 Tips for Talking About Domestic Violence in the News

“Have You Heard About XYZ Case?” All too often, domestic violence is in the news. Here at REACH we always struggle with what, if anything, to say about these stories that everyone is talking about, or what news stories from other sources to share with you through our social media. This past week, it was Rob Porter. In the past, it was Ray Rice or Chris…

Why REACH Uses Art Therapy to Help Children Affected by Domestic Violence

“We don’t even need words, we go straight to where the memory is stored.” This is how REACH’s Child and Adolescent Therapist, Catalina, describes the work she does through art therapy with children. The Art Therapy Alliance defines art therapy as “the deliberate use of art-making to address psychological and emotional needs, facilitated by an Art Therapist.  Art therapy uses art media and the creative process…